- No attachments. You assume this is a one-time deal. If he gets a girlfriend next week, you should be cool with it.
- "Dating" standards of behavior are relaxed. He farted in bed? No problem. But you can point and laugh.
- Relationship is the same in bed as out of bed. If you give each other shit in normal life, you should be able to do it here. This is to underline the "buddy" aspect.
- If the sex sucks, you never mention it. It's just a buddy fuck (see: relaxed standards of behavior), and you recognize this is a sensitive area. This is to keep both parties from using the sex against each other later; trust.
- Reciprocity. If he wants a blow-job, he has to be willing to give one. This is to keep the relationship on an even keel.
- No pushing. Your buddy says no, you don't risk the friendship. But this is balanced by the reciprocity: if he's received that blow-job it's not cool to say no to giving one (unless you both agreed ahead of time). This is trickier than it seems -- a buddy-fuck assumes that the friendship is equal, but a lot of friendships aren't, often there's a leader and a follower. In that case the leader generally sets the pace and the follower uses his usual methods to say no.
Chances are that if someone breaks any of these rules, they wanted more than a buddy-fuck in the first place. Also, a lot of people think they just want a buddy-fuck and end up wanting more.
The Rules of a Buddy Fuck
The unwritten rules of a buddy-fuck:
- No attachments. You assume this is a one-time deal. If he gets a girlfriend next week, you should be cool with it.
- "Dating" standards of behavior are relaxed. He farted in bed? No problem. But you can point and laugh.
- Relationship is the same in bed as out of bed. If you give each other shit in normal life, you should be able to do it here. This is to underline the "buddy" aspect.
- If the sex sucks, you never mention it. It's just a buddy fuck (see: relaxed standards of behavior), and you recognize this is a sensitive area. This is to keep both parties from using the sex against each other later; trust.
- Reciprocity. If he wants a blow-job, he has to be willing to give one. This is to keep the relationship on an even keel.
- No pushing. Your buddy says no, you don't risk the friendship. But this is balanced by the reciprocity: if he's received that blow-job it's not cool to say no to giving one (unless you both agreed ahead of time). This is trickier than it seems -- a buddy-fuck assumes that the friendship is equal, but a lot of friendships aren't, often there's a leader and a follower. In that case the leader generally sets the pace and the follower uses his usual methods to say no.
Chances are that if someone breaks any of these rules, they wanted more than a buddy-fuck in the first place. Also, a lot of people think they just want a buddy-fuck and end up wanting more.
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